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bipolar sensitivity to technology and the great disconnent

on June 18, 2013

Is it just me, or is it the more ways we have of contacting each other the less we actually fucking talk to each other? I have good friends who I usually feel very secure in our friendship, but I end up feeling weird and worrying that there’s an issue because they ignore a text or a tweet or an email or a comment on a status update or whatever the frickin means of communication was. Is it that we are so bombarded with constant messages coming at us from so many places that we have devalued the messages that friends send us?

As a bipolar person, I am more sensitive to what happens around me. I analyze every motive and feeling and what’s behind every little thing. It’s enough to drive a person crazy. And so in this modern age of technology with all of us able to see what each other had for lunch and when they’re at the doctor’s sitting in the waiting room and what they thought of that new tv show, when we have this information all day long every day, we seem to forget to actually talk to each other, communicate and convey care and interest in one another.

It’s maddening, I truly fear for how we will end up as a society. I worry about how friendships will be managed as technology progresses. I end up feeling so despondent and rejected when i’m not replied to, then i wonder if it’s just me being a needy jerk or if there really is a huge problem happening here.

I just think we all need to take a little time to actually connect with the people that matter, have you done it lately? I’ve been trying to recently but some people make it really hard. Another symptom of bipolar is that when you’re low, you don’t really reply to anything or want to interact with anyone, and i have a good handful of friends with mental illnesses, so that in itself becomes frustrating, and with these friends i usually just send them a message somehow, reminding them i’m thinking of them but expect no response, but eventually, you need a response, right? after a couple of weeks, a response isn’t asking too much is it?If you’re someone that’s gotten caught up in the hectic and frantic means in which we all bombard each other with information, take a moment to figure out if people know where they stand with you, do they know you care?

6 responses to “bipolar sensitivity to technology and the great disconnent

  1. Shainbird says:

    I think because instant messaging is really not as instant as a face-to-face dialogue where we can see the reaction of the person, we may misconstrue the long pauses that may in reality be a dead phone or someone who hasn’t checked their inbox. This leaves open many possibilities for a less compassionate society whose inhabitants have lost the human touch. You bring up a very valid point!

    • mckarlie says:

      Yeah, sometimes it is just a dead phone or unchecked inbox, but sometimes people are getting so many messages from different sources they don’t tend to value the information and act of communicating itself. I have friends who frequently ‘forget’ to reply to a text or tweet because they simply have too many social media tools and toys to distract them šŸ™‚

      • Shainbird says:

        Yes, I see what you mean. It is a bombardment of social media and friendships may strain under such pressure. I don’t see a way for some people to pull back from e-society. It has become the core of communication. But deep friendships should be strong enough to pull through, I would hope to believe. šŸ™‚

      • mckarlie says:

        Yeah, true friendships will survive but true friendships become more and more rare. In an age when people think that ‘liking’ a status is a positive communication encounter, it’s a bit bleak lol thanks for your input šŸ™‚

      • Shainbird says:

        Very true, thank you for instigating such enlightening dialogue. šŸ™‚

      • mckarlie says:

        My pleasure, any time! šŸ™‚

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